By Shinri Furuzawa
Audiences around the world have been charmed—but occasionally horrified—by the hit Netflix show, Old Enough. In this show from Japan, parents send children as young as two years old to complete various errands outside the home. These errands sometimes involve crossing busy traffic, walking distances of up to two miles, or taking a bus or ferry. The children, unbeknownst to them, carry hidden microphones which record their voiced thoughts. They are also trailed by a camera crew, disguised as passersby or workmen, to film them and ensure their safety.
In Japanese, the show translates to My First Errand
In every episode there is some dramatic tension as things inevitably go wrong. The children get scared; forget which items they are sent to buy; and/or can’t find what they’re looking for. A four-year-old girl in one episode takes so long completing her errand that the sun goes down and the production team has to light her way home. Presumably most members of the audience root for these very young children to complete their tasks successfully; indeed some viewers are moved to tears as the youngsters face and typically overcome various challenges.
Dangerous and irresponsible?
In the United States, a common reaction to the show is “That could never happen here, parents would be arrested!” It’s true that American police have been called on parents who allow their children out unaccompanied to play in the park, or walk the dog. Minority and low-income parents are particularly vulnerable to this intervention by the law. Fears about child safety, however, may well be misplaced—the US is not a dangerous place for children, and abduction by a stranger, perhaps a parent’s greatest fear, is only 0.1% of FBI missing children cases.
That said, compared to many other developed societies, Japan is a safer country for children to roam. Urban planning means, for example, that residential streets are usually narrower with rare on-street parking. There are also fewer sidewalks. One might expect this geographical layout to be more dangerous, but actually in Japan cars are expected to watch out for and avoid pedestrians with the onus on drivers to be careful rather than the other way around. Mixed zoning also allows neighborhoods to include small businesses in residential areas—meaning children often don’t have far to go if they are sent to run errands.
In comparison with the United States, which my colleagues and I consider to be a very egocentric (or “I-oriented”) society, Japan has a decidedly communal approach to childrearing. Indeed, “it takes a village,” with adults in the neighborhoods looking out for the local children. Contrary to expectation, Japanese cities can have closer communities than smaller towns as people live in greater proximity. Japanese parents are most likely to agree that they know people who would help their children if needed and this number rises in more urban communities.
The true goal of interdependence
Admirers of Old Enough see what these Japanese children are able to achieve; and many worry that children in their own countries don’t have enough autonomy or independence. But what Old Enough actually demonstrates is the Japanese value of interdependence. In this East Asian collectivist culture, the objective is not to achieve self-efficacy and achievement of personal goals. The aim is rather to nurture children to be responsive to the social needs and expectations of others while avoiding tension and conflict. Eminent social psychologists, Hazel Markus and Shinobu Kitayama, describe this as being “harmoniously connected to others.” The tasks assigned to children on Old Enough are tasks that will presumably help and benefit others—be it their family members or others in the community. The children are being asked to contribute and not just to benefit themselves. Sample errands include buying food for a sick sibling, picking up firewood for a cookout for friends and family, and delivering juice to thirsty fruit pickers.
Boy aged 2 years 10 months, given candy before being sent on errand to dry cleaner (Originally broadcast by Fuji TV, 2017)
An example conveys this tension: In one episode, a two-year-old boy initially refuses to go out on his errand to pick up dry cleaning for his father, the owner of a sushi restaurant. His mother sternly tells him that his father will not be able to work if he doesn’t have his clean chef whites and they would have to close the restaurant if he can’t work. The responsibility of the family business is thus placed on the shoulders of the two-year-old son. Accordingly, for the benefit of his family, with a hug from his mother (and a treat in mouth), he sets off to the dry cleaner located about 60 yards away. He manages to do the errand and return home—though the dry-cleaning drags on the ground behind him as he is too small to lift it!
Children on the show generally feel a sense of duty to complete the tasks to help their family or community in some way. After successfully achieving their tasks, the children therefore feel proud of themselves and valued, they receive due praise and appreciation and are celebrated for their contribution. As an example, parents tell them that thanks to the groceries they brought home, dinner will taste more delicious.
The pattern I have described is not restricted to Japan. While visiting her family in Taiwan—an East Asian country with a similar collectivist culture to Japan—my colleague Yvonne Liu-Constant went to pick up her 3-year-old nephew, Joshua, from preschool. He was excited to see her (a cherished aunt visiting from America) and began running around everywhere. Suddenly, his teacher approached him and said something quietly. Joshua immediately went to his cubby and, to Yvonne’s surprise, returned with a well-organized backpack that he had neatly packed all by himself. Yvonne was impressed Joshua had managed this feat. His mother explained that all year, the children had been trained on how to organize their backpacks through step-by-step homework which built on skills to teach this responsibility. The reason? For children to be helpful to their parents. Increased independence and personal responsibility may be the result, but benefiting others is the supervening goal.
AN Inspiring lesson
We may all have something to learn from this Japanese approach of encouraging children to think beyond themselves through errands or responsibilities which are acts of service. With proper guidance from caring adults and a supportive community, even very young children are capable of more than we might believe. Perhaps this Japanese TV show provides some insight on how we can all learn to think less about “me” and more about “we.”
The Good Starts Project is generously funded by the Saul Zaentz Charitable Foundation.
I’d like to thank Howard Gardner, Mara Krechevsky, and Yvonne Liu-Constant for their valuable comments on an earlier draft.